Saturday, October 13, 2012

Through the Chaos

Oh, you should have seen our attempt to Skype with Evan this morning.  It was absolutely hilarious in a "this will be funny later" kind of way.  The connection was terrible so we could neither see nor hear Evan with any kind of clarity and the kids were getting frustrated because they wanted to talk to him so badly, but it just wasn't working.  Eventually, he called us on the phone and we watched the fractured, pixilated image on the screen while we heard his voice through the phone.  It was just so....us.  I was multi-tasking as usual, making pancakes, unloading and re-loading the dishwasher, feeding Thomas, and  making coffee.

At one point, Evan had to say to me, "Sarah, just stop for a second so I can see you!"  I completely forgot that Evan could see us through the web cam just fine.  It never occurred to me that Evan would actually want to see me when his kids were more than enthusiastic about showing off their half-eaten pancakes, reward charts filled with stickers, and drawings. 

Sometimes I forget that Evan is really missing this.  I feel somewhat drowned in the noise, the mess, and the chaos.  I find myself overwhelmed by the constant clutter that follows me everywhere and the incessant chattering/whining/bickering/crying. 

It can be easy to forget that he doesn't get to see this

 or this

  or even this.

While I look around and see chaos, he looks around and sees a barren hotel, lonely hotel room.  While I yearn for a few stolen moments of peace and quiet, he surfs TV channels in Chinese just to get some noise.  While I get to start and end each day with hugs and kisses from my sweet boys, Evan wakes and falls asleep on his own. 

Sure, I'm lonely without him.  But even through the chaos, I am still home.  I need to keep reminding myself that Evan really, truly, wishes he were too. 

4 comments:

  1. Made me tear up!

    I was really sad leaving those crazy boys of yours on Saturday - I really miss them when I am away from them - so I can only imagine what Evan is feeling.

    I think that it is always healing to put ourselves in someone else's shoes went we are stressed out and only thinking about our own issues. Sometimes it is all about perspective.

    Love you guys

    -Ashley

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    1. Oh, did they ever have fun with you too!

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  2. sniff, sniff ;)
    great post. It's hard to remember how good we have it when surrounded by constant chaos. Great perspective! (as usual)

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    1. But that chaos can just be so overwhelming, can't it? I think that's why having the breaks here and there are so important!

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