Monday, March 25, 2013

Time Keeps on Slippin', Slippin'

Raise your hand if, like my husband and I, you have risen from your bed in the morning all bleary-eyed and cranky only to stumble through your morning and mutter to yourself, "I really need to go to bed earlier."

Our schedule is nuts.  My hubby goes to work around 7 am and while he is doing his thing at the office, I am in charge of keeping the kids from burning the house down.  Somewhere in the late afternoon hours, I get myself ready for work and (hopefully) get a dinner game plan ready for Evan and the boys.  When my beloved walks in the door, we have about 90 seconds to give each other a quick run-down of what has taken place during the day and what's on tap for the evening before I give each of the members of my family a quick kiss and get in the car.  I then put in my hours as a waitress, working until usually about 10:00 pm.  I will hit the gym after work if I get out a bit early, but most of the time I am working late enough that I just come straight home.

If you're playing along at home, you've realized that I don't get any quiet time alone or quality time with my husband until about 10:30 at night.  It used to be that we would then stay up until about midnight or so before finally going to sleep, only to rise exhausted around 6:00 am.

We finally decided we had to have a bedtime.  We settled on a 10:30 bedtime where, if we are both at home, we stop whatever we are doing and just go to bed.  Even if we are in the middle of a show or a movie, we pause it where we left off and finish it a different time.  If I am not home from work yet, Evan goes to bed without me.

After just over a week of living with our new bedtime I have made several observations.

1.  I am significantly less tired in the morning.  This may have more to do with the fact that my husband has been bringing me coffee immediately upon rising than the amount of rest I am getting, but I'm not about to look a gift horse in the mouth.

2.  I am way behind on several things.  I am behind on Project Life, blogging, photo editing, and numerous other projects I have going simultaneously.  I would often stay up late working on these things so losing that time has really put me in the hole.  I'm trying not to let it bug me, but it really is.  When I try to get blogging done while the baby is awake, I have found it to be....challenging.


3.  My time in the Word has dropped drastically.  This one is absolutely unacceptable.  I can't blame this struggle entirely on the bedtime, but it's more a combination of several circumstances.  The frustration I have encountered with trying to find the right time to meet with God every day is a real hot point for me.  I welcome any suggestions!

4.  I can't talk to anyone about TV.  We are WAYYYYY behind on the few shows that we actually watch on a regular basis so when I hear people discussing the most recent episode, I have to put my fingers in my ears and sing songs from "Mary Poppins."  Then people think I'm weird.

So, I think it's a work in progress.  Hard to say whether or not it has been a positive change in our world or not, but perhaps some more time will help.

Do you have a bedtime?  Or perhaps you have some time management tips that help you make the most of each day?  I'd love to hear about it!

13 comments:

  1. Is there a time in the day where the kids could work on a project and you could work on something you enjoy? I'll often take the kids to the craft room with me, put on music and let them dance and color while I work on Project Life.

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    1. I have tried this with some rather limited success. See, Thomas is in that stage where he wants to get into EVERYTHING and he loves to take any opportunity where I am even slightly distracted to break into my room and mess with the printer, climb up on top of the coffee table and attack the TV, or other such nonsense. He also likes to climb up on the kitchen chairs and pound on the keyboard of my laptop. I've learned the hard way the only time I can work on PL is when that little monkey is sleeping. :)

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  2. I have a bedtime. It is also 10:30. I get up around 6:30 to have quiet time before the kiddos get up and I have to get ready to leave the house. I really love Laura Vanderkam's advice on time management. Have you ever kept a time log? I find that just know where I'm spending my time then helps me be conscious of what tweaks I can make. And perhaps there's something you could stop doing. I also like Jessica's suggestion about a time where the boys could work on something while you have time too. My 3 year old is dropping her nap, but I instituted a quiet time where she had to stay in her room and read or play quietly. That buys me a good 30 minutes. Good luck! ~Alissa

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    1. Want to know something funny? The first thing I thought when I read your comment was, "I don't have time to make a time log!!" :)

      I have tried to have my quiet time in the Word in the morning, but I have found that to be very difficult. I think I just need to push through and make this happen though. At some point, I need to realize that it is a priority and to do what I gotta do to make it happen, even if it means waking up at a ridiculous time in the morning.

      I attempted that whole "Quiet Time" concept with my boys and it blew up in my face. Boys....

      :)

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  3. It is really hard on you when you are so crazy busy that you do not have any extra quiet time. Last week I was working from 7:00am - 7:30 or 8:00 pm and then would go directly to bed (because my bedtime is 8:30 haha) and get up again at 5:00am and start all over again. It got super stressful. But one thing I do not compromise is sleep. You are so much happier and more productive when you are well rested - this is a really good thing to make sure to keep.

    Love you and excited to see you this weekend!

    -Ashley

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    1. Sleep is super awesome. I love sleep. I really am one of those people who just needs more sleep, I think. Ask Evan - I am super cranky and hard to live with when I am over-tired. Not pretty.

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    2. You are always beautiful and wonderful to be around.

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  4. Oh Sarah, you've again touched on another topic that we have in common! We've been discussing that (financially)I really need to get a job at night, but wonder how we would manage since we are already sleep deprived and have very little quality time together. My older 2 boys are in school (5th and 2nd grades) and the homework is ridiculous. For some reason, the extracurricular activities are loaded on at this time of year too. My oldest often goes to bed at 10 and sometimes we wait till then to have our own, quiet dinner (gulp). Our eating issues are a topic for another day! I admire you for making sleep a priority and wish I could give you advice on how to fit in everything else. Maybe set the 10:30 bedtime 4 nights a week and stay up later the other 3? Btw, thank you for your post on the TMMO. I'm sorry that I asked an uncomfortable question, but hope it was the tiny nudge that might get you back on track. I was nervous myself putting that question out there to you too! Good luck on all of it, just keep swimming :)

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    1. I'm not gonna lie, Audrey. It gets hard sometimes to keep up the schedule we've got going. It's exhausting. I'm trying not to think about how much more crazy it is going to get as the kids get older. I've decided to just adopt a kind of "cross that bridge when I get to it" attitude on that one. :)

      No worries on the TMMO post. I needed to write it. We're going to get it under control!

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    2. I just want it noted that you having a "cross that bridge when I get to it" attitude is a MAJOR accomplishment for you. There was a time, even not that long ago, where you might have worried yourself sick about something like this. I'm proud of you for staying concerned with only the stuff that you can directly affect.

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    3. I'm a work in progress, dear. :)

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  5. I have to laugh because my husband is definitely a "cross that bridge when we get to it" kind of person ... and I am not. Like I'm already thinking about things that are years away as if they need a decision next week. It's why I only sleep 5-6 hours a night, because of my brain racing through the others. Luckily other aspects of life may get easier when the homework years arrive (like the time you won't be spending wiping babies' bottoms or having toddler food battles). I'm praying that we'll all make it!

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