Tuesday, May 6, 2014

#redballoonsforryan

Micah is upset with me right because he "really wants Cheetos" and I don't have any to give him.

Thomas went to bed annoyed with me because I didn't let him put on his own diaper before naptime.

Isaiah left for school today a bit disgruntled because he didn't have enough time to thoroughly enjoy his new Pokemon cards before it was time to get on the bus.

But they are here.  They are happy.  They are healthy.  They are drawing breath and making messes.  For just a moment more, they are mine.

How quickly that can all be snatched away.

The blogging community is an incredible thing and I have seen it happen time and time again where one of our own needs us and the rest of us rally.  We drop what we are doing, get typing, sharing, tweeting, and most important of all - praying.  Say what you will about the evils of the Internet and the danger of social media, but I have witnessed firsthand the power that it has to be used for good.

Of course, this is a double-edged sword.  Because if the community is awake and moving, it is because it has been roused.



As I scrolled through my Instagram feed this morning, I saw a flood of photos of a darling red-headed little boy under the hashtag #redballoonsforryan and I read the story of Ryan Cruz Saldana, the three year old son of a Californina blogger mom named Jacqui.  On Friday, the family was playing outside in the yard at a family member's house when Ryan went to retrieve a Frisbee that had flown into the street and was struck by an oncoming truck.  He died at the scene.

How many times have I held my breath as my kids cross the street?
Hollered at Isaiah to pleasefortheloveofGod LOOK BOTH WAYS when he rides his bike only to watch him dart out right in front of a red truck that thankfully saw him in time to stop.
Reminded Micah to play in the driveway or on the sidewalk only to turn around and see him picking up something from the middle of the road and pop it in his mouth.

Or the time we were rear-ended on the way to church, leaving our van totaled but my children uninjured.

I have been seconds away from their heartbreak, but we have been spared.  Why they should be chosen to bear this burden, I will never know.


But the sisters of the blogging world have been at work and they have been rallying around this family.  If you feel compelled to read more of their story and perhaps donate to support them in this time, check out Thrive Moms - a site run by loving women of high integrity.  Please pray for comfort and for God to draw near to this family in this time of unspeakable pain.


The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18)

Our prayers are with you, Jacqui and Dan. 

(All photos from @babyboybakery on Instagram)



24 comments:

  1. Amen. All we can really do is offer support and prayer. Stumbled upon your blog when I was looking for any updates on this sweet family. Thank you for sharing the truth behind the good that can happen when we rally together over a tragic incident using social media.

    xo,
    Ana

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  2. There is no reason why this happened to them instead of to somebody else. It just happened. Randomly. I speak from experience when I say that there is NO "reason" for something like this to happen, and that NOTHING "good" will come out of it. The poor parents will NEVER heal from this; they will never get over this. However, in time, they might be able smile again and perhaps find some measure of joy in life. The only thing anyone else can do is to give them love and support.

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    1. Thank you for your comment. I don't think there is anyone looking for a "reason" in these sort of circumstances, but I do firmly believe that God is able to weave all things together for ultimate GOOD for those who love him, even if we might not get to see that "good" in this lifetime. (Romans 8)

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    2. I have never felt a loss like the one the parents above and other parents have felt in losing a child. I hope and pray that I never feel that sort of loss.
      However, to say that there is "no reason" for this loss is a bit mis-leading. There will, most likely be no reason that we, in our finite wisdom and foresight will ever see in this happening. We only will see the family that mourns this loss. We will only see that this little boy will never get the chance to grow up into a man. We won't see the ripples that are caused by this death. Life is a hard and difficult thing. But we are not in control of this world and never will be. Horrible things happen too often. However, it is not for us to decide the reason for something happening. That can only ever be decided by God.
      The same can be said for something "Good" coming from this. I think that what you must mean is that the good that comes from this can never equal the loss of this boy. That you feel that the scales won't be balanced by his death. However, to say that NO good will come from it isn't the case, necessarily. In many cases, there can be a death and the surviving family turns to God and, while struggling greatly, put their faith in Him and his plan for their lives. That show of faith can, in many cases, present a remarkable example for others and bring them to Christ. Again, the loss will never be equaled for this family and people who knew this boy. But SOME good may still come of it.
      In the end, you are correct in your final note. It is the duty of their friends and family to support and love this family while they try to deal with this horrible thing.

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    1. Thank you for your kind comment, Kristin.

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  4. Too religious

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    1. Sarah thanks for sharing the real you and your faith. Religiius or not it's the real you, on your real blog.

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  5. I, like Ana, stumbled upon this when looking for more info. Thank you for sharing and I completely agree with all you said! I'm a mother of three & have heard similar news to this about a friend of mine earlier this past week. Makes me hug my kids a little tighter, linger when saying goodbyes a little longer. We never know when it's the last time, so this is most definitely a reminder to enjoy every moment. Praying for the Saldana family and friends.

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    1. Thank you for your comment, Cris. Glad to see you stumbled into my little corner of the Internet, but sorry it had to be under such circumstances. As a fellow mother of three, I totally hear you on the hugging a little tighter when things like this happen. Thank you for your prayers for the Saldana family.

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  6. Not too religious we are talking about a dead child and grieving parents.

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  7. Not too religious we are talking about a dead child and grieving parents.

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  8. Googling this little boy's name and came back with your blog. I saw this in my instagram feed yesterday as well, and it just brought me to tears. This beautiful boy and his loving parents. I can tell he had a wonderful life. Being a new mom by 5 months, I just can't fathom the pain they are going through. I don't know if I would even want to live. I'm really praying hard for the parents.

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    1. Give that little baby some extra cuddles!!! Thank you for your comment and for your prayers.

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  9. If your child has a tendency to dart across the street on his bike without looking both ways, and you find yourself thanking god that the truck driver had stopped just in time because he spotted your kid, then something is TERRIBLY wrong there.........

    Anyways, I can't imagine what the parents of Ryan must be going through right now. My condolences to them.

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    1. Oh yes, you are absolutely right. The fact that my kid, due to his age-appropriate brain development, sometimes acts without thinking things through appropriately and calculating the possible risks his actions might encounter, did make the mistake one time of not checking the street enough before crossing on his bike totally shows that there is something terribly wrong. Terribly wrong with him, for sure. Probably possessed by a demon for sure, maybe worse. And as for me as a parent - all signs point to negligence at the very least, and probably even borderline abuse and psychosis. I know that when I was a child, spending hours riding helmet-less on back country roads until sundown without a cellphone, I never, NOT ONCE encountered any kind of near miss where I narrowly avoided injury or maiming. Oh, no. Never. So to think that I would grow up only to actually encourage my children to spend time outside riding their bikes within viewing distance of my front window in my quiet residential neighborhood with proper head protection....I think we can all agree it's shocking. Call the authorities, for sure. Something is terribly TERRIBLY wrong here.

      Thank you Anonymous, for your insights. I will certainly adjust my parenting accordingly as soon as I can get my blood pressure back down to a normal level.

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    2. I absolutely LOVE your reply!!

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  10. LOVE your response to Anonymous!
    I will be praying for the Saldana family.

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  11. Our family suffered a similar tragedy not long ago, and two young boys died. I have grieved long and hard and expect that I will live out my days grieving. The most helpful perspective as a Christian that I have adopted is that good things do, in fact, happen after suffering such excrutiating loss, but it will never ever make the loss worth it. We will never be able to justify such a thing by flippantly quoting the Bible verse "all things work together for good . . ." Also, faith is not having to have an answer to why something happened. Faith is trusting God through it all--when the unthinkable happens to you. When you suddenly are "that family" who just minutes or hours or days ago were living life oblivious to the moment that it would all change. And you are forced to make the choice to go on living or to curl up and die. It is the toughest battle I have ever fought, and I would not have made it without my faith and the faith of my friends and family, which carried me when I could not carry myself. This family will need prayer support for a very long time.

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    1. Kicking myself for not replying to this immediately when it came through. Forgive me, Denise. here we are almost a year later and I am going back through old blog posts when I came across your comment and your last sentence hit me so hard - "This family will need prayer support for a very long time." A perfectly timed prompt to prayer. Thank you for your honesty, your willingness to share something so painful, and for your example of trusting in the Lord.

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  12. Thank you for sharing your kind thoughts for this family. The pain must be unimaginable. All we can do is pray and send loving thoughts to them.
    May God hold them in the palm of his hand.
    Amy

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  13. Tragic for everyone involved.. my heart also goes out to the driver, who I'm sure never expected a toddler to be near a busy street.

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